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Goodbye 2017 & Goodbye Blog

Goodbye 2017 & Goodbye Blog

Dear Blog,

You may have noticed that I dropped off the map for most of November and December. Yeah, sorry about that. Or, maybe not. A big part of this year has been learning to release the pressure valve a little bit. To stop and smell those roses a little more and to not feel bad if that meant that the counter looked like this:

And the laundry baskets looked like this:

Cleaning out my grandmother’s house and focusing on what really matters in life seemed like the natural ending. It’s pretty hard to go from profound back to silly and I think I just didn’t want to. Instead of forcing myself like I would have “before,” I type-B’d it and let it go. That’s progress, right?

This year and this blog has been a fun ride. It’s sparked loads of interesting conversation with friends and strangers. It’s forced me to sing solo on stage and get hypnotized while holding a stuffed elephant. I now know I can cold call if I have to, chew slower if I have to, and hand over the planning reins to others if. I. have. to.

Top 10 Lessons Learned

  1. Wake Me Up Before You Go Go is a VERY VERY long song when you’re up on stage totally sober. (Or: Facing your fears like a Type B is a good thing to do. You realize that you don’t actually die doing the thing you are afraid of. And, you stand just a little taller when you’re done.)
  2. Single-tasking actually gets more done. It’s true. I didn’t believe it either, but things get done faster and then the task you were going to multi-task gets slotted into a much better time window than the one you were trying to cram it into.
  3. Forget dieting – walk slower. It actually burns more calories! Not only that, but it sends your nervous system the signal that you’re not stressed out so your system starts to settle and your anxiety lessens.
  4. There is more than one way to relax and the most “out there” are some of the most fun. Trust me – I floated in salt water, got poked with acupuncture needles, was hypnotized, and had my face massaged until it melted like butt-ah.
  5. Anger is real – especially for Type As, but it doesn’t have to rule you. Condense your angry words to 3 sentences and your anger will at least be productive and won’t alienate its recipient. Also effective is channeling Daniel Tiger.
  6. Freaky Friday (or a Type A/B swap) is more freaky than not. Sometimes it’s just so hard for a Type A to let go of control.
  7. Sometimes you just have to get off your own back.
  8. When you’re feeling alone or like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, the best thing to do is phone a friend. You won’t feel like it, but you’ll always be glad you did.
  9. Sometimes you just need a 12 step program…
  10. At the heart of it all – Listen up, Type As – “these little busy plans we make, they are important in some ways, they really are – but we can’t take them with us.”

So that’s it, then. Arrivederci, Dear Blog! I’m not saying goodbye to writing completely, though – gasp! What a thought! My dear friend Grace is kicking off a writer’s group (current membership: 2), which will help me continue to carve out time for this “guilty pleasure.”

Thanks for coming along for the ride and best wishes for a spectacular and Type B-ish (but also A because we’re pretty cool too!) 2018!

Alison



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